Umm, so here is something new that I'm not sure how to deal with: It began a few days ago, and when I first noticed it, I thought for sure, for absolute sure, that I was just hearing things.
But then I heard it again yesterday. And today, as Violet and I sat facing each other during lunch, she put down her sandwich-half, looked right into my eyes, and said it clear as day: f*ck.
And then she said it some more;
f*ck, f*ck, f*ck..... like A tiny sailor; or a little choochoo train, chugging along, but instead of chug it's f*ck.
Then, she smiled and watched to see what I would do.
Ok, first of all-- let's all agree that the thought (and I promise you, the sight and sound) of sweet V saying this word is, well, one of those rare and remarkable funny occurrences that the world gives you once in a while, wrapped in a beautiful little satin bow. But now, that we are done with it being funny, what am I supposed to do about this?
And, backup, how did she even learn this? I don't swear much-- and neither does Tyler-- where did it come from? And she obviously already knows that there is something a little different about this word, (why else would she look at me in that special what is mom going to do way?) so where did she learn the social tabooness of it?
So far I have ignored it, thinking it will probably just get boring and go away if I don't respond (not a permanent solution, but a good temporary one). I responded too much to the cuteness of "lellow" (instead of "yellow"), and now it is a permanent addition to her vocabulary. I also responded too negatively when she started to experiment with chewing her fingernails, and when it got worse and worse, so much that they were bloody little wicks, I finally decided to ignore it, and then just a few days later it went a way.....
But what do I do about this on a larger more longterm scale?
Do I continue to ignore it and hope that it doesn't surface at some inappropriate moment? Do I sit her down the next time it comes up and tell her that some words hurt peoples' feelings and that we shouldn't say them?
Do I tell her that it's only appropriate to say this word when she stubs her toe?
Is this something that I even need to be worry about?
Hmm... this is an interesting one. It's kind of my mommy-challenge for the week; like the crossword that you get in the back of a magazine.
But then I heard it again yesterday. And today, as Violet and I sat facing each other during lunch, she put down her sandwich-half, looked right into my eyes, and said it clear as day: f*ck.
And then she said it some more;
f*ck, f*ck, f*ck..... like A tiny sailor; or a little choochoo train, chugging along, but instead of chug it's f*ck.
Then, she smiled and watched to see what I would do.
Ok, first of all-- let's all agree that the thought (and I promise you, the sight and sound) of sweet V saying this word is, well, one of those rare and remarkable funny occurrences that the world gives you once in a while, wrapped in a beautiful little satin bow. But now, that we are done with it being funny, what am I supposed to do about this?
And, backup, how did she even learn this? I don't swear much-- and neither does Tyler-- where did it come from? And she obviously already knows that there is something a little different about this word, (why else would she look at me in that special what is mom going to do way?) so where did she learn the social tabooness of it?
So far I have ignored it, thinking it will probably just get boring and go away if I don't respond (not a permanent solution, but a good temporary one). I responded too much to the cuteness of "lellow" (instead of "yellow"), and now it is a permanent addition to her vocabulary. I also responded too negatively when she started to experiment with chewing her fingernails, and when it got worse and worse, so much that they were bloody little wicks, I finally decided to ignore it, and then just a few days later it went a way.....
But what do I do about this on a larger more longterm scale?
Do I continue to ignore it and hope that it doesn't surface at some inappropriate moment? Do I sit her down the next time it comes up and tell her that some words hurt peoples' feelings and that we shouldn't say them?
Do I tell her that it's only appropriate to say this word when she stubs her toe?
Is this something that I even need to be worry about?
Hmm... this is an interesting one. It's kind of my mommy-challenge for the week; like the crossword that you get in the back of a magazine.
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